hostile mommies brew grumpy babies...
So I spent the better part of the day applying for any and every job that vaguely seemed appropriate. We'll see what happens. I want to be in the best possible environment professionally, financially and emotionally while junior/ette is stewing away. It's not fair to start him or her in a stress-laced melange.
The up note: once I got upright this morning and drank a bit of flat Coke (yum-not-I don't even like soda) and had a few crackers, I felt better. Today I haven't been queasy. Hooray.
posted by More about me @ 5:53 PM
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We mean well, us members of the Cult of Mom, we really do. We just want you to somehow avoid the pitfalls we experienced and all that. We're parents, whaddaya want?
There are a gazillion books out there with basic information, and the truth is that everyone's pregnancy is different. One woman's craving is another's nausea, so the story of my own war wounds ultimately does precious little except to remind you that you are not alone. But what I can offer you is this: do not add the pressure of expectation to the mix. Sometimes you will love being pregnant, sometimes you will hate it. That doesn't make you a bad mom, nor does it ruin your child forever. It just proves you're not the Virgin Mary (who probably wasn't as beatifically valiumed as she is portrayed - she was a Jewish mother after all). No matter what you do, your child will have to overcome you someday. That's your job. ;) I was happy for all of about three weeks of my pregnancy, but it didn't stop Corinne from being a delightful human being and the world's most easygoing baby (a fact I did not fully appreciate at the time). And medically, the stress chemicals brought on by guilt are far worse than those brought on by grumpiness. Teach your little one that all moods are acceptable. Allow yourself to be who you are (a woman racked with hormones, body changes and life changes), grow as you do, and trust that that is enough. Life rarely meets our ideals, especially as parents. Let yourself off that hook as soon as you can. Tape this to your mirror: "my best is good enough".
love to you,
Maya
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